Love Like Jodi

Friends and family of Jodi Whitaker say her legacy can be summarized in a word: love. That’s why, since losing Whitaker suddenly on Oct. 13, they have decided to move forward with the mantra “love like Jodi.”

Whitaker, who was 40, celebrated her 15th wedding anniversary with her husband Jeff in early October. They have two children, a 12-year-old daughter and an 8-year-old son, who were the center of her universe.

“Jodi and Jeff were a perfect match,” said Jayme Fowler, Whitaker’s sister. “They were best friends, who talked constantly, even when they were apart. And her kids, oh gosh. They were everything to her.”

Whitaker and her sister flew to Virginia to visit their aunt Oct. 12. The trio planned to drive to Maryland the next day to attend a birthday party.

“We were all getting ready that morning and Jodi was taking a long time,” said Fowler. “I went to check on her and found her unconscious in the shower.”

Fowler attempted CPR until EMTs arrived, but her sister, her best friend and confidante, who was seemingly healthy and well, was gone.

“From the very start when everyone found out, there was a swell of support,” said Fowler. “Jodi was well-known, involved in so many circles, constantly loving and doing for others. It’s like all the love was coming back to us.”

Neighbors, fellow sports parents, church friends — they swarmed around the Whitakers’ home immediately. Meals were provided, a new washing machine arrived to replace their broken one, even a ride on private jet was gifted to bring Fowler home from Virginia. Everyone was asking what they could do to help, and everyone was sharing their stories.

“We, her family, always knew Jodi over-loved us, if that’s a thing,” said Fowler, 42, of Loganville. “What’s really amazing is that all the people we’ve talked to since she passed say their experience with her was the exact same. I don’t know how one person can reach so many, how she had the time to touch base with this one, cook for that one, make everyone feel seen and loved. So many people came to us saying they want to be a better wife, a better mother, a better friend, all because of Jodi. That’s when I decided we could sit around and be sad, or we could show love the way Jodi did. I want to love like Jodi.”

At Whitaker’s service, which was attended by around 1,000 people, close friends and family wore shirts with the words “Love Like Jodi” emblazoned across their chests. They spoke of Whitaker’s friendly, hilarious personality, how she talked to strangers with ease, how she hugged and kissed her parents multiple times when she’d tell them goodbye.

They also spoke of her generous spirit and how they would carry it forward, a ripple effect already in motion.

Each year for Halloween, Whitaker hosted a party on behalf of her church in the cul de sac in front of her Bogart home. Her neighbors decided to do what Whitaker would, and hosted the annual party, complete with pizza and a bounce house, still right in front of Whitaker’s house.

Whitaker volunteered at multiple events every year for friends’ non-profits. She intended to volunteer at the Nov. 12 banquet for Hope 139, a nonprofit led by Shelley Tanner that serves at-risk mothers and children. The organization is building a community that will include residential cottages, play areas, and a community center. Hope 139 has chosen to dedicate their first cottage to Whitaker, calling it Jodi’s House.

Whitaker also intended to volunteer at the Banquet of Blessings on Nov. 20, an event organized by her close friends Lindsey and David Pollack through their nonprofit, The Pollack Family Foundation. The intention of this event is to bus in 800-1,000 homeless people from the greater Athens area to the Classic Center in downtown Athens.

They will be given a free Thanksgiving feast, along with items like clothes, hygiene products, and food packs. Inspired to love like Jodi, Fowler, along with some of Whitaker’s friends, initiated drives to collect items for the banquet.

“I wanted to give the gift of warmth in honor of Jodi,” said Fowler. “I went to Facebook and asked friends to help me collect 200 sleeping bags. The request was fulfilled within a couple days.”

Other friends have asked for items like coats, gloves, and baby wipes.

“To see a community come together like this is a testament to how good Jodi was,” said Lindsey. “She volunteered at every event we’ve ever had for the foundation, and I know she would’ve done anything I asked of her at this banquet. This event is about serving and showing people love and graciousness. That’s what Jodi did without even trying.”

Lindsey said Whitaker would be overwhelmed and humbled by her community’s support, but she might also find it silly.

“Jodi wouldn’t expect any attention for being such a good person,” said Lindsey.
“It was just natural for her, the first to show up, always giving of herself. She loved big, she served big. It’s who she was and how we will remember her, by serving and loving.”

Fulfilling a Dream: From Executive to EMT

Like many at the height of the COVID-19 pandemic, Linda Matzigkeit was desperate to help. Unlike many, Matzigkeit, the chief administrative officer at Children’s Healthcare of Atlanta, got trained to serve as an emergency medical technician.

“I had wanted a clinical profession since I was in the seventh grade,” said Matzigkeit, 56. “I started college as a pharmacy student, but the biology, organic chemistry and such were overwhelming. I changed my major to healthcare administration. I worked for a consulting firm after college and almost left to return to school to become a nurse when I was offered my current role at Children’s. I thought, hmmm, maybe this is the way I’ll get closer to the clinical side.”

Matzigkeit has worked at Children’s for 20 years. In her executive role, she oversees most of the support departments, including human resources, marketing, legal, and employee and patient wellness. She leads a team of five vice presidents and 400 staff members.

When the pandemic hit, Matzigkeit watched many employees leave their jobs.

“Things were so uncertain, people were scared and had their families to worry about. Many females left the workforce to stay home with their families, and we were understaffed,” said Matzigkeit. “We asked staff in all positions to help fill different roles, like delivering food and cleaning rooms. Seeing the staff so stressed and scared made me feel helpless. I wanted to do more.”

Matzigkeit researched options to become a trained EMT. She chose Grady EMS Academy.

“It’s the most intensive program,” said Matzigkeit. “They have great instructors who are paramedics, their very own facility, and you must pass an entrance exam to get in. There is a high level of rigor and I prepared for months.”

She was accepted into the academy in October 2021 in a class of 26 students. It’s a six-month program, two nights a week from 5-10 p.m., followed by clinical rotation in the Grady Emergency Department and ambulances.

“My husband and son were a little nervous, but very supportive because they knew clinical work had been a lifelong dream of mine,” said Matzigkeit. “They were the only ones who knew I was doing this. I didn’t want anyone else to know until after I was licensed. I guess I had a little fear of failure.”

Matzigkeit describes the Grady EMS Academy as one of the most incredible experiences of her life.

“It was eye-opening to see the work they do at Grady,” said Matzigkeit. “It’s such an asset for our community and I’m so grateful Grady exists.”

Her stint in the ambulance was tough physically, requiring a lot of rushing and lifting. Matzigkeit cared for stroke victims, heart attack patients and the victim of a stabbing. One critical patient asked her to call his mother. That hit hard.

“I thought of my son a lot while caring for patients,” said Matzigkeit. “I thought about how I’d want a person to do all they could to care for him. I wanted to do all I could for my patients.”

Matzigkeit worried she’d be queasy at the sight of blood, but quickly realized it wouldn’t be an issue.

“You’re laser-focused when you are trying to save someone’s life and nothing like that matters,” said Matzigkeit.

When Matzigkeit graduated and received her EMT license, she went to her boss, Children’s CEO Donna Hyland, shared her secret, and asked if Children’s might hire her as an EMT for the emergency department.

“She was baffled that I went to school and did my job at the same time. She was also incredibly supportive,” said Matzigkeit.

Matzigkeit had to train for 100 hours in the Children’s emergency department, which equated to about 10 shifts. She was incognito during this training. No one knew about her day job.

“It was helpful for me to just be another staff member. I didn’t want to be treated differently. I wanted to work and learn like everyone else,” said Matzigkeit.

Her preceptor (instructor) was 22, the same age as Matzigkeit’s son.

“It was humbling, for sure,” said Matzigkeit. “She could run circles around me. She was amazing.”

As a mother, she found that taking care of babies and toddlers, and witnessing parents’ emotions, was much more difficult than caring for adults, but it was also very rewarding. She completed the training in fall 2022 and now works an average of one shift a month in the Children’s emergency department. She is also able to provide unique, helpful insight to how Children’s can better serve their employees.

“This experience helps me be a better leader,” said Matzigkeit. “I see now that these nurses are too busy to read e-mails. We need to find better ways to communicate with them. I see how important a preceptor is, how important it is to have a frontline manager checking in on the staff. I’m so grateful for the perspective I gained. I’m so happy I achieved this dream of mine and that now I get to take care of patients.”

Peyton Gully, From Patient to Nurse

Peyton Gully was a 15-year-old cross country runner when she was diagnosed with cancer. Now, at 23 years old, she is returning to where she spent so much time in treatment, Children’s Healthcare of Atlanta — not as a patient, but as a nurse.

Gully grew up in Marietta, the oldest of Brandt and Cheryl Gully’s three daughters, and attended Pope High School.

It was the fall semester of her sophomore year when the headaches began. She maintained a busy schedule between schoolwork and running, so Gully assumed high stress was the cause of the headaches. She visited a few neurologists who didn’t find anything awry, but when the pain refused to show mercy, Gully landed in the emergency room at Children’s.

“Christmas break had just ended, and I had only been back to school for a day,” said Gully. “I never imagined I wouldn’t be back in school for a year-and-a-half.”

Bloodwork was done in the ER. The results were life-altering.

“The look on the doctor’s face when he came in, I can’t imagine what’s it’s like for doctors to deliver news like this to kids and their parents,” said Gully.

Leukemia, the doctor said, but they wanted to run more tests to be sure. The subsequent tests confirmed the diagnosis. Gully, less than a year from her sweet 16, had ALL, Acute Lymphoblastic Leukemia.

“I remember thinking, ‘I’m going to die,’” said Gully. “My knowledge of cancer was limited to watching a grandparent pass from cancer, and I had a grandfather who had cancer at the time. I knew nothing about childhood cancer.”

Gully was admitted to the Pediatric Intensive Care Unit immediately. The rest of her family rushed to her side as they grappled with the surreal news.

There was a constant rotation of doctors over the next few days as the course of treatment was mapped out. ALL, the Gullys learned, has a good prognosis and is very treatable with extensive treatment. However, after Gully was admitted to the AFLAC Center for Blood Disorders and Cancer at Scottish Rite, tests showed Gully didn’t just have ALL, she also had AML, Acute Myeloid Leukemia, a more difficult cancer to treat. It’s extremely rare to have both cancers at the same time.

She had dreamed of playing lacrosse in the spring and spending time with friends, but instead Gully received chemotherapy, radiation, and a bone marrow transplant. The cancer cells were gone after the transplant, but, just a few days before her 16th birthday, her 100-day post-transplant biopsy results showed cancer cells. She had relapsed.

“It was much harder receiving this news, knowing all I’d have to endure,” said Gully, who stayed at Children’s for six weeks after her spring transplant, her immune system depleted, her body weak. “I knew that relapsing so soon after a transplant was not good. I remember asking my dad what the relapse meant for me, and he said, ‘Peyton, it’s not good.’ Doctors told my parents my chance of survival was just 1 percent. Now I had to go through all the treatments again, knowing full well they might not work. I was 16 and fighting for my life.”

A minimum of eight months is needed between transplants. Gully had her second on Dec. 21, 2017, and endured another long stay in the hospital afterward.

“I lived at the hospital, all my stays ranging from weeks to months. It was truly my home away from home,” said Gully. “I spent Christmas there, New Year’s and I’m able to remember more of the good and happy than the hard and sad. I’m incredibly grateful for that. My friends and family gave me so much support, and all the staff at Children’s went out of their way to make me feel known and cared for.”

Gully was declared cancer free in April 2018. She returned to school her senior year and attended the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill to pursue a bachelor of science in nursing degree.

“All the health care workers — the social workers, the child life specialists, the sweet woman who cleaned my room every day, the doctors — they all made the biggest impact on me. I knew this is what I wanted to do one day. All of those people are one of the reasons I can look back on the experience and say I wouldn’t change a thing,” said Gully. “I want to serve patients and their families and make them feel as loved and cared for as I felt.”

Gully graduated in May and began her career at Children’s at Scottish Rite as an inpatient rehab nurse on Sept. 18.

“I’m so thankful to be on the other side,” said Gully. “I never forget that my story is not the same as so many others’ and I never want to minimize that. Every experience with illness is different. I’m not walking into this job to share my personal experience. No one needs to remember my name or my story. I just pray my story fuels me to serve with excellence. It will be a privilege to play a part in my patients’ stories.”

Matthew Caymol: Faith Over Fear

Matthew Caymol does not see himself as brave or extraordinary, but those around him do. He survived two open heart surgeries by the age of 3. Doctors said it was a miracle when he survived a horrific car accident when he was 13. Now, at 21 years old, he continues to make big strides.

Matthew was born in May 2002 with several heart defects, which were discovered during an ultrasound at 25 weeks. He had surgeries at 7 months old and 3 years old. They were considered palliative procedures to reduce the workload of his heart.

“The surgeries and recoveries didn’t shake his joyful spirit,” said Angie Caymol, Matthew’s mother. “From the time he was a baby, he’s been the same easy-going, happy guy. He’s my calm, level-headed middle child.”

Growing up, Matthew was restricted from contact sports and was told to rest when he felt tired, otherwise, everything was typical. He was close to his siblings, older sister Logan and younger brother Drew, and he loved to play basketball and baseball.

On Dec. 2, 2015, when Matthew was 13, the Caymol family experienced a life-altering tragedy. While driving home from basketball practice, Matthew, his father, Mateo, and Drew, 11, were in a car accident just 20 seconds from their new home in Buford. It was dark when a deer ran into the road. An oncoming car swerved to miss the animal and collided with the Caymols’ Honda Accord.

Angie could hear the onslaught of sirens as she surveyed a mountain of moving boxes in her garage. As the volume of the sirens grew, so did her anxiety. She began calling cell phone numbers — Mateo, Matthew, Drew — but no one answered. She got in her car and followed the high-pitched wails. She prayed she wouldn’t see a gray car but discovered an accident with two gray cars at the center of the noise.

After standing by for what felt like forever, an officer approached. He told Angie that Mateo and Matthew were both severely injured and could die, and Drew, the baby of the family, her baby, who looked like Matthew’s twin, did not survive.

Mateo had a shattered hip socket, several broken ribs, and lung issues. He was taken to one hospital while Matthew was life-flighted to another. Matthew suffered a lung collapse, traumatic brain injury, and a deep cut on his right foot that later turned septic. He was in a medically induced coma for three weeks.

“My memory from the accident is foggy,” said Matthew. “I don’t remember much of anything from before, during, or some of the after.”

Matthew’s recovery was miraculous. He came home in early February of 2016 and continued daily out-patient rehab for three months. He had physical, occupational and speech therapies for the next couple of years.

Matthew’s memory and reflexes are compromised as a result of the traumatic brain injury. He has what’s called “foot drop,” where the brain doesn’t send signals to the foot to lift. On his left leg he wears a Bioness, a brace-like e-stim device that helps improve walking abilities.

When Matthew turned 16, getting his driver’s license was not on his mind.

“It was a mix of not being sure I’d physically be able and, to be honest, I just didn’t want to,” said Matthew.

He changed his mind, however, when he was 19.

“It was his first summer back from college,” recalled Angie. “He called and told me he was ready to get his license. He said to make sure I wouldn’t let him change his mind.”

For two-and-a-half summers, Angie drove Matthew to Children’s Healthcare of Atlanta-Scottish Rite to attend their driver rehab program. Evaluation results showed he was not fit to drive using his feet but could train to drive with hand controls instead.

“I don’t remember being afraid of being in a car, but I was a bit nervous with the hand controls at first,” said Matthew.

Watching Matthew work toward his goal to drive was consistent with the character he’s shown his entire life, said his mother.

“Like everything else involving him, I was amazed,” said Angie. “His desire to work toward something without complaint, his commitment despite the difficulty, his lack of excuses and how he’s unaffected by comparison — I just admire him so much.”

Matthew earned his driver’s license on Aug.18, the day after he returned from a cross-country road trip with friends. When he returned to Clemson University to start his junior year, he did so in a new white Bronco, complete with hand controls.

When asked how he carries on without fear or bitterness, Matthew is succinct, absolute.

“The accident is always in the back of my mind. It’s a presence, but not a fear. I have the support of my family, faith in God, and faith in myself.”

More Bee(liever)s with Honey

Bob and Beverly Bradbury have the secret to health and longevity in their backyard, and a love for people in their hearts. They share it all beneath their B&B Enterprises tent at farmers markets and festivals, a continuation of a calling that came 70 years ago.

When Bob began his freshman year at Syracuse University in 1950, he chose forestry as his major. That is also the year he became a Christian. The following year he got involved in a campus ministry group, where he met his future bride, Beverly.

“She had a strong personal faith, and I was drawn to that,” said Bob, 91. “She had a wonderful sense of humor, and she and I were just in sync.”

Around the time he met Beverly, Bob began to feel like God was opening a door he hadn’t considered before.

“He was leading me to be a pastor,” said Bob. “It was a calling.”

Bob became a pastor at age 26 in New Jersey and married Beverly a year later, in 1958.

“There are so many things I loved about being a pastor,” said Bob, who retired in 1997 after 41 years at the pulpit. “When I was in seminary, I learned that you should study in the morning for sermons and after lunch you should be in the homes of your people. That’s how you find out what their needs are. A significant part of any pastor’s sermon is the application. You want to reach everyone from the 8-year-old to the 80-year-old. I loved reaching people.”

In 1962 the Bradburys moved to Bloomfield, New Jersey. During that time, they befriended a Jamaican neighbor who was raised on an organic farm and maintained that lifestyle into adulthood. Over the following 15 years, Bob and Beverly welcomed five children and their neighbor taught them all about gardening.

“It was very helpful, especially with five kids and a pastor’s salary,” quipped Bob. “We really enjoyed it. We learned everything from making our compost to canning. It’s healthy eating, great stuff, but also, I just love to get my hands down in the dirt. I don’t use gloves, I just dig in. It’s healthful in the way of building up your immune system.”

After Bloomfield, the Bradburys lived in Aliquippa, Pennsylvania, for 20 years, where they had a large, fruitful garden. They moved to Georgia after Bob retired to be near two of their five children. Bob took disaster response training and the couple got involved in short-term mission trips. They have taken more than 40 trips around the world, including Haiti, Sweden, Sri Lanka, and India.

They purchased a home in Flowery Branch with .625 acres. They have a garden that boasts over 200 kinds of flowers, 36 kinds of vegetables, 12 kinds of fruit and many herbs. They also have multiple beehives and produce their own raw wildflower honey.

It was Beverly’s idea to sell their honey at farmer’s markets. They began with the wildflower honey and their product lines have expanded to include seven flavors of honey, bee pollen, elderberry syrup, scented candles, frankincense, moisturizing cream, and hard candy.

The Bradburys attribute their good health to their homegrown lifestyle. Besides bi-monthly cholesterol injections for Bob, they couple does not require medications and are physically in shape. They love to share the benefits of their products with customers, but love diving into deeper conversations even more. Once a pastor, always a pastor.

“On the way to markets, we pray that God will lead us to those who need encouragement,” said Bob. “There’s some 68 passages in the New Testament with the phrase ‘one another’ – pray for one another, exhort one another, love one another, encourage one another daily. People can get discouraged so easily, so we seek to encourage them.”

The Bradburys set up shop at the Suwanee and Flowery Branch Farmers Markets on Saturdays and Thursdays, respectively. They sit in matching captain’s chairs, selling their products, answering questions, and frequently praying with people.

“Beverly has always had the gift of evangelism, so she’s engaging with adults and children just as much as I am,” said Bob. “The question I usually ask people is ‘what is your greatest need?’ One of the greatest needs is wisdom, because we’re constantly making decisions. We pray with people for wisdom, or whatever their need is, and we often see them again. Folks have come back and said, ‘you’re the reason I came to the market today.’ But be clear, this is not about us, but the glory of God.”

Bob and Beverly, 87, have no plans of slowing down. They have 18 grandchildren, 14 great-grandchildren, and a homegrown ministry that they love.

“We want to finish strong,” said Bob. “Psalm 92 says ‘I will make you to bear fruit in old age.’ Isn’t that a wonderful promise? We want to keep on till the Lord takes us home.”

Drew Blood Returns to the Ring

Drew Toney thought his days as professional wrestler Drew Blood were behind him, but on Sept. 2, he returned to the ring for one more fight — not for glory, but to inspire and entertain his students. It had been four years since he donned his finest spandex, but wrestling, Toney said, is like riding a bike: You never forget how it’s done.

Wrestling has been an interest of Toney’s since he was a boy.

“My earliest childhood memory is watching wrestling at my grandmother’s house,” said Toney, 41, of Travelers Rest, South Carolina. “Hulk Hogan, Ric Flair, Randy Savage, I loved them all. I couldn’t sit still and watch. I’d use pillows, people, whatever, to do what the wrestlers on TV were doing. I’d extend my hand as I walked down the hall in school, accidentally knocking things off walls as I high fived my invisible fans.”

Toney wrestled in high school and went right into the Army after graduation. While stationed in Fort Stewart, he took leave to train with Adrian Street, a professional wrestler who ran a wrestling school in Florida.

“He was very knowledgeable, and I wanted to learn from him,” said Toney. “Some schools have a reputation for abusing guys, but he wasn’t like that at all. He got to business and harped on the showman aspect of wrestling.”

During Toney’s five-year stint in the Army, he began using Drew Blood as his stage name and he wrestled weekly at shows across South Georgia, at places like fairgrounds and abandoned flea markets.

“It was just fun. I really enjoy storytelling, improv, involving the audience — all the stuff I learned from Adrian,” said Toney. “It’s a lot like improv comedy, but you can add drama, or heat as they call it in wrestling, where you get people angry. It’s entertainment.”

Toney realized early on that wrestling wasn’t going to be a full-time vocation. The expense required to create a gimmick with a wide-ranging wardrobe along with all the costs for travel outweigh the pay for the small shows and the small shows were what Toney preferred.

“I never wanted to be on TV,” said Toney. “I like the local spots, the dingy buildings, and skating rinks. They just don’t pay enough.”

Toney continued to wrestle on the weekends, but it became less frequent when he became a father in 2010. Though wrestling was something he enjoyed, he never allowed it to take from his personal life.

Years passed. The wrestling shows dwindled until they eventually stopped. Toney, a married father of four, is a teacher for the Greenville County Alternative Program. His students, who are all boys and range in age from 11 to 21 years old, are in group homes for an array of reasons, from their own behavior, to neglect and abuse. Many of the students are orphaned and many struggle with mental health issues.

“I have a great repertoire with the students. I love them and feel bonded to them,” said Toney. “I want to be consistent with them and show them I care. I know some of them have no one else.”

To reward his students for working hard and meeting goals, Toney shows them his old wrestling videos. Back when he was still wrestling, he’d even let the boys choose his outfits, making them feel like part of the act.

Though he wasn’t wrestling anymore, Toney’s passion for the sport continued through his writing. He self-published a book, a western with a wrestling theme called “Catch as Catch Can,” in 2021, and is in the process of writing the sequel. Still, his students craved the action.

“The kids who’ve been around a while ask all the time when I’m going to wrestle again,” said Toney. “Then my old tag team partner, Timothy Coursey, wrestling name David Raines, asked me to join him for one more show to fulfill his bucket list. It’d been years, but I decided to go for it one more time.”

Toney made his return at the Wild Card Match hosted by Southern Fried Championship Wrestling in Monroe at The Boys & Girls Club.

“There was no practice beforehand,” said Toney. “If I was going to get hurt, I’d rather it be in the ring.”

Toney, clad in red and yellow spandex, and his partner had the crowd roiling with laugher over their elaborate entrance which mimicked a scene from “Titanic.” The duo lost the match, as was their role, and Toney walked away with both a sense of finality and excitement to share the experience with his students.

“It was definitely worth it,” said Toney. “I’m fortunate that I was able to have a nice bookend, whereas some guys don’t stop until an injury forces them to. My wrestling days are over, but I’m glad I could do this for my students. It shows them that it’s OK to be vulnerable and funny. They see me lose, they see how I embrace it and accept it, and for inner-city youth, that is a hard pill to swallow. I want to show them unwavering confidence, win, lose, or draw.”

Steve Disney: The Most Colorful Braves Fan

Photo by Hyosub Shin

The 100-plus tattoos that cover Steve Disney’s body tell the stories of his life — of family, faith, redemption and, featured on his right leg, a chapter dedicated to the Atlanta Braves.

Disney doesn’t know exactly how many Braves tattoos wrap that leg. He guesses somewhere in the ballpark of 30. But he’s certain he’ll step up to the plate — err, tattoo chair — for more red and blue ink soon. That’s because the 65-year-old Johns Creek resident has become obsessed with tattoos since he got his first at age 60.

But before Disney recounts his tattoos, he needs to unfurl his lifelong love of the Braves.

When the Milwaukee Braves became the Atlanta Braves in 1966, Disney was 8 years old. His family of four lived in Marietta, and the trips to the Atlanta-Fulton County Stadium, where the Braves played till 1996, became a treat.

“We drove into the big city, and it felt like an adventure, a vacation. It wasn’t something we could do all the time,” said Disney. “Tickets were a dollar or so for kids. Sometimes we’d go as a family. Sometimes it was just me, my dad and big brother, or it was a Little League outing. I was wearing my Little League uniform in my first picture taken at a Braves game.”

Disney, an athletic kid who was pretty good at baseball and loved collecting baseball cards, was captivated by the major league games. His memories are vivid and action-packed, none more so than when he witnessed Hank Aaron’s 500th home run on July 14, 1968. There was an uproar, a celebration — and a 10-year-old Disney with stars in his eyes.

“Back then, there were probably 12 players who had hit that many homers. It was a huge deal,” said Disney. “They handed out business cards at the game with a picture of Aaron. It said, ‘I was there when Hank hit his 500th home run.’ I wrote on the back of it: ‘To Steve, From Hank’ and signed his name. I went to school and told everyone I got Hank Aaron’s autograph.”

Disney’s love for the Braves continued as he grew older. He continued to attend a handful of games each season. He watched games religiously on TBS, kept up with the team in the sports section and was thrilled when ESPN’s “SportsCenter” came onto the scene in 1979, so he could follow the Braves there, too.

Aside from watching hall of famer Phil Niekro, one of his all-time favorites, Disney said the 1980s weren’t an exhilarating decade for the Braves. He could get a game ticket for a few bucks and nab a seat by the dugout because fans were sparse. During this lull for his team, Disney was dealing with struggles of his own.

“I was a big-time partier back in the day — cocaine, booze, all of that. I ran around Atlanta doing all kinds of crazy stuff,” said Disney, now a poker tournament director. “Eventually, I was at the end of my line. I called my dad and told him I had a problem. He said it was about time I admitted it. I quit it all on March 11, 1986. I went to rehab and an outpatient program, meetings for Cocaine Anonymous and Alcoholics Anonymous. I built my sobriety day by day.”

Sobriety changed everything.

“I made all new friends because I didn’t have the same kind of fun as my old friends anymore. I was proud I got sober before both my parents passed away,” he said. “My life became more focused. I probably watched more baseball than ever around that time. Then came the ’90s and we really started getting good. That’s when I became a fanatic.”

John Smoltz, Mark Glavine and Greg Maddux led a resurgence for the Braves. Disney cheered on the team when it won the pennant in 1991.

“The city went nuts,” said Disney, who owns an impressive collection of Braves shirts and hats. “The buzz in the city was something else.”

Chipper Jones, another favorite of Disney’s, joined the Braves in 1993. And then the team won the World Series in 1995.

Exciting as baseball was for Disney, life got even better when he became the father to three in the late 1990s, two boys and a girl.

“As they grew up, I became a baseball dad, taking them to Braves games like my dad did with me,” said Disney, fondly. “You know, I never caught a foul ball, but my son caught two at Turner Field. I was proud and pissed off at the same time.”

Disney refers to his kids as his “Disney World.” Austin, Morgan and Connor, all in their mid- to late-20s now, are the greatest gifts in his life, he said.

In 2018, after years of begging, Connor, who was 20 at the time, talked his dad into getting a tattoo with him.

“I’d held him off for a long time, telling him my generation only had tattoos if they were in the military, jail or a biker gang,” said Disney with a guffaw. “He was relentless though, and I finally gave in. I was a little nervous. I asked a lot of questions. I watched Connor go first and took pictures. He got a Bible verse on his arm. I got a tattoo on my left forearm. I chose my kids’ names with an infinity symbol. I’m proud of it. I felt like a cool 60-year-old dad. After that one, I told David, the tattoo artist, I’d be back.”

True to his word, Disney returned the following week and added “My Life” above the kids’ names and “My Disney World” beneath.

“I get lots of looks and stares, but I don’t mind. I actually like it. They’re conversation starters,” said Disney. “The funniest thing I’ve heard is ‘Why’d you wait till you were almost dead to get them?’”

His response: “I have one life to live, and I’m going to enjoy it.”

Disney began visiting David Witucki at Pür Ink Tattoo and Piercings in Johns Creek about every other week.

“My original tattoos were in regard to my family and my recovery, which I wear like a flag,” said Disney. “At first, I aimed for the whole ‘business in the front, party in the back’ deal, where just my left arm would be decorated, and I’d keep the right one clean. But I got addicted to the art of tattooing. It hurts at times, but it’s peaceful to sit in that chair. It’s an escape. I enjoy telling my story this way. It’s nothing crazy important to anyone else, but it is to me.”

Disney’s left leg is covered in with characters from “Toy Story,” his kids’ favorite movie from childhood. He has quotes related to his sobriety and a nod to Virginia Tech football in honor of his dad, who was a big fan of the Hokies. And, of course, there’s his Braves leg.

Disney’s dozens of Braves tattoos include new and nostalgic Braves logos, tomahawks, hall of famer numbers and silhouettes of Hank Aaron and Chipper Jones. The Braves won the World Series in October 2021, and the next month Disney had an image of the trophy added to his collection. Then he was thrown a curveball.

“I was diagnosed with esophageal cancer in November 2021,” said Disney before his voice breaks. “I didn’t tell my kids immediately. I didn’t want to ruin their holidays. No surgery could be done, but I started chemo and radiation. I stopped getting tattoos because it’s not good for your immune system.”

Though he still has issues with his esophagus and continues to get chemo infusions every few weeks, Disney is cancer free. Just as his son repeatedly asked him to get tattooed for years, Disney repeatedly asked his oncologist when he could return to the tattoo chair. Permission was granted in May. The first tattoo he got upon his return was a big “A” logo for the Braves and the words “2021 champions.”

When asked what his next Braves ink will be, Disney doesn’t hesitate.

“I think I’ll add guys like Austin Riley, Ozzie Albies and Matt Olson, and hopefully another championship trophy.”



Kenzie Kelley

At 13 years old, many girls are in the early stages of puberty, but when Kenzie Kelley was 13, she went through menopause. Now, a decade later, she hopes to use her experience to help women who struggle with fertility through her non-profit, the Whole Foundation Co.

“My period had stopped, and I didn’t tell anyone,” said Kelley, now 23, of Flowery Branch. “I was very young and innocent-minded. I didn’t know why it stopped. I had never done anything — I thought I was like the Virgin Mary.”

After going without her period for a year, Kelley began experiencing hot flashes, she gained weight rapidly, and she became very forgetful. Her mother took her to the pediatrician who said that while the symptoms mimicked post-menopausal symptoms, there was no way that’s what it was.

Kelley changed pediatricians several times and eventually met with her mother’s obstetrician. The OB did a full bloodwork panel and discovered that Kelley’s follicle-stimulating hormone (FSH) was 180, the equivalent of an 80-year-old woman’s FSH level. It should have been 10 or less for a 13-year-old. There was no evidence of follicles or eggs, and Kelley’s uterus was thin because there was not a supply of hormones to keep it healthy.

“When the doctor saw all of that, she thought I had a tumor, maybe ovarian cancer,” said Kelley. “I had more testing, but there were no tumors or anything suspicious. That’s when we went to the Mayo Clinic in Rochester to figure out why this was happening.”

Kelley was at the Mayo Clinic three times for two-week stretches during her teens.

“They combed through every part of me,” said Kelley. “I left with 14 other diagnoses, but they never figured out the reason for what they called premature ovarian failure — a nice way of saying early menopause.”

Kelley’s mom gave birth to five children and never experienced fertility issues. Her grandmother went through menopause at 29, but doctors ruled that out as a connection to Kelley’s early menopause. She was placed on hormone replacement therapy to build up her uterine lining and to prevent uterine and ovarian cancers, which are more common in post-menopausal women. Kelley was also checked for osteoporosis, as bone loss typically increases after menopause. Doctors told her she had only a 5% chance of spontaneous pregnancy.

“I didn’t fully comprehend what that meant at the time,” said Kelley. “I was in high school. My mind wasn’t on fertility.”

It was, however, focused on love. Kelley was just 14 when she met Shane Adams, her husband of five years.

“We always felt a couple steps ahead and knew we wanted to get married young,” said Kelley. “Maybe it was my diagnosis, but I grew up fast and he was with me through all of that.”

Kelley began to feel the gravity of infertility after being married for a while.

“The path isn’t straight or narrow. Sometimes it feels like there’s no path at all,” said Kelley. “It created an identity crisis for me. There’s this worldly view that I should be able to reproduce and when you’re unable to, you’re not sure what you’re meant for. My identity is in Christ, but sometimes it’s hard not to focus on worldly things.”

In fall of 2022, Kelley and Adams pursued egg adoption. They quickly learned that it was extremely expensive. They applied for loans and grants and were denied by all of them. When those doors shut, they took it as a sign that the timing wasn’t right, and Kelley shifted her focus to a new mission.

“I want to create something that will help the infertility community with education, resources and financial alleviation,” said Kelley. “I want to create a retreat for anyone with infertility, I want to write about my story, participate in speaking engagements — anything I can do to bring awareness.”

Her non-profit, which launched in May 2023, is called the Whole Foundation Co.

“I chose ‘whole’ because something that was always in my head was that I didn’t feel like a whole person, like something was missing. I don’t want anyone to feel that way,” said Kelley. “No matter your diagnosis, you’re whole. You’re valued, you’re worthy.”

Kelley has found peace with her diagnosis and, while she hopes children are in her and Shane’s future, she has found acceptance with whatever comes.

“I’d love to look into adoption, or egg donation again,” said Kelley. “I’d love to become a mother one day, but also, I look at the word ‘mother’ as a broad term. It can be a sense of mentorship, biological or not. It’s being there to help people in any way, and I know I can do that.”

To learn more about the Whole Foundation Co., visit www.wholefoundationco.org

One Hell of a Golf Round

It was July 24 when Jason Aussin, his dad Tony Aussin, his grandfather Jose Aussin, and a family friend were headed to the Chattahoochee Golf Club in Gainesville for a noon tee time.

While Jason and his grandfather rode side by side in the backseat, they decided they’d share a golf cart for the day. Jose joked with his grandson and asked if he’d be able to take care of him during the round. Jason said, “Don’t worry, Pops, I know CPR, you’re good.” Jose laughed and said he didn’t think that would be necessary.

The Aussin family is extremely tightknit. They talk on the phone often and take vacations together. Though Jason’s grandparents and uncle live in Chicago, they visit a couple times a year. Jose was the captain of the Mexican national soccer team in his younger years and is still a competitive golfer at 81, so sports are always incorporated into family visits.

“It was a hot day, but Pops was taking it easy,” said Jason, 20, a junior on the Piedmont University soccer team in Demorest. “He’d drive to each hole, hit his ball, and sit back down.”

The foursome was on their 6th hole of the round, a Par 4. Jose gave his grandson a few tips as he used his 3 wood, which resulted in Jason hitting the best shot of his life with that club. All four men chipped their balls to the green, then Jose called out to his son.

“He said his name in a kind of surprised way, kind of muffled,” recalled Jason. “Then he said it again and started falling. We thought he might be messing around, but when he sat down, his head went limp, then hit the ground.”

The men rushed over to Jose, whose breathing was erratic. They thought maybe he was having a heat stroke. They asked a cart girl to call 911, then poured water on Jose’s head. That’s when he stopped breathing.

“I checked his pulse and breathing and there was nothing,” said Jason. “I told my dad I had to start CPR. He said, ‘You’re the one who is certified, I trust you.’”

For the past three years, Jason has worked as a lifeguard at the Wills Park Pool in Alpharetta. That is where he got certified for CPR, which he just renewed this summer, as is required to do every two years.

“It was fresh in my brain, thank God,” said Jason, who had never had to administer CPR before.

Jason began compressions, 30 at a time, on his grandfather’s chest, then titled his head back so air could get into his lungs. He instructed his father to give two breaths.

“I’ve never seen anyone, even CPR certified, give better breaths,” said Jason. “I don’t know if it was adrenaline or what, but my dad killed it.”

On the third round of compressions, there was the indistinguishable sound of ribs snapping, which is not uncommon during CPR. The cart girl asked if there was anything else she could do and Jason requested an AED, an automated external defibrillator.

“That device is incredible,” said Aussin. “It literally tells you what to do, it’s dummy proof. I continued doing CPR until the AED said it was ready. We pulled up his shirt, put the pads on and hit the button. It analyzed his heartbeat for 15 seconds, then the shock was ready. We stood clear, hit the shock, and my grandpa, still unconscious and purple, launched up in the air.”

Jason and Tony continued CPR and used the AED once more until EMS arrived. By the time Jose was moved to the ambulance, he had a pulse and was breathing.

The EMS and firemen shook Jason’s hand and said he was the reason his grandfather was alive.

“That meant a lot to me, but really, I don’t think I could have done it without my dad,” said Jason.

Tony dismissed the credit and said his son is the hero. He describes Jason as a very measured person.

“He doesn’t panic or choke under pressure, and that’s how he was on the golf course that day,” said Tony. “He was calm and collected, as always. I’m so proud. Every time I see him, I hug him and tell him he saved Grandpa’s life.”

When Jose woke in the hospital days later, he remembered nothing. He was emotional when he learned what his grandson had done. Over the following days, he complained about chest pain. Jason told him it was because he broke his ribs doing CPR. Without missing a beat, Jose playfully raised a fist at his grandson.

“We told him he was winning the round before everything happened and he said, ‘of course I was winning’,” said Jason, laughing. “I told him, ‘You know what this means, right? I better be getting one hell of a birthday present.’”

Jose, who was hospitalized for weeks after the incident, will return to Chicago soon and Jason is back on campus, busy with school and sports, and spreading the word about the importance of CPR.

“I want to share my story and encourage people to get certified,” said Jason. “Trust me, you just never know when you may need it. That was one hell of a golf round.”

Prince's Final Hike

Every dog has its day and for golden retriever Prince, that was Aug. 20, the day of his final hike.

Mary Santana and her son, Bryan Santana, adopted Prince, now 10 (or 70 in dog years), as a puppy when Bryan was a senior in high school. Prince is a very friendly, affectionate dog, especially with Bryan. When he left for college, Prince would sleep in his empty room. When Bryan moved to Ohio for his first job after college, Prince moved with him. Bryan recently moved back to Georgia, and Prince is temporarily in his puppyhood home with Mary in Lawrenceville.

Mary and Bryan have always shared an active lifestyle, favoring outdoor time above all. They, along with Prince and Bryan’s girlfriend, met at Panther Creek Falls that August Saturday for a hike and picnic.

Panther Creek Falls is a nearly nine-mile trail in Clarkesville, surrounded by a series of waterfalls and towering trees. It’s an intense trail to hike, especially during Georgia’s dog days of summer.

“Prince was fine in the beginning, but when he started to slow down, we gave him lots of breaks for rest and water and stopped for a longer stretch to have our picnic,” said Bryan, 27. “When we were done, Prince walked about 50 yards before he laid down. We knew he couldn’t go any farther on his own.”

Bryan’s first idea was to carry his 100-pound dog across his shoulders, but with more than 4 miles to traverse, that plan was short-lived. Next, he found a long, thick stick and took a hammock from his hiking backpack. They had Prince lay in the center of the hammock, then tied the ends of it to the ends of the stick. Mother and son, she in the back, he in the front, each put an end of the stick atop their shoulder and began to walk.

They hadn’t gotten far when their path intersected with that of Cheryl Hite, 66, of Ellijay, a member of S.A.F.E. (Stay Active Friends of Ellijay), a group that gathers to hike and kayak in North Georgia.

“I immediately recognized they needed help and stepped in,” said Hite. “I suggested we alter the hammock and use it as a sling under Prince’s belly to see if he could bear any weight, but he couldn’t. We put him back in the hammock and I took over carrying the back end of the stick, so Mary could walk by Prince.”

The walk was challenging. Bryan and Hite focused on synchronizing their steps so the dog wouldn’t swing in the hammock, and Bryan prepared Hite for the rocks and roots ahead. They would alternate shoulders, but they tried to keep moving, because it was too hard to stop.

After travelling about 40 minutes, a gentleman with a dog approached and offered to help.

“His dog was so well-trained,” said Hite. “He went straight to Prince, nose to nose, and calmed him. He walked by his side the rest of the way.”

As the group trudged on, rotating positions every so often, more people joined the effort to help Prince. Soon a group of 13 strangers surrounded Prince and the Santanas.

“It was so emotional to see more and more people come up and ask if they could help,” said Hite. “No one was asked to; they were just drawn toward the situation. These were people who spoke different languages, had different cultures, strangers of all ages from different walks of life who pitched in to help other strangers and their dog. It was beautiful.”

There were areas where the inclines were so steep, it was impossible to climb and carry the dog, so the group formed a chain and passed Prince down the line of people. They used the same tactic at multiple water crossings. They had to maneuver over big rocks, duck under tree limbs, and manage terrain that was slippery due to erosion.

A tear rolled down Bryan’s face as he observed everyone’s efforts.

“I was so moved,” said Bryan. “It’s amazing how people came together to help. We were united, not just physically, but emotionally, all for Prince.”

At one point, Bryan’s calf muscle cramped, and he collapsed. Hite gave Bryan mustard, pickle juice, and arnica, all emergency aides she keeps in her backpack for cramps.

After more than three hours, around 7:30 p.m., the rescue crew crossed the finish line. They were wet, muddy, dog-tired, and elated.

“We would’ve never gotten Prince out by sunset if not for all those people,” said Bryan, his gratitude palpable.

Before everyone went their separate ways, they gathered around Prince for a group photo. The Santanas expressed sincere thanks and took their beloved dog home to rest.

Going forward, Bryan said he plans to stock his backpack with even more supplies for emergency situations.

“I wish there was a way I could repay all the people who helped us,” said Bryan. “If nothing else, I’ll be ready to pay it forward.”

As for Prince, he is well. The Santanas followed up with their vet who instructed them to give electrolytes and prescribed arthritis medication. Prince has retired from hiking but is happy and spoiled with loads of love and attention, Bryan said.

“He’s lived up to his name. He’s a true prince.”



Justin Upchurch: ALS Warrior

When Justin Upchurch was challenged to participate in the ALS Ice Bucket Challenge in 2014, he knew very little about the disease. Nine years later, he volunteers with two ALS organizations, and he’s a member of two support groups, because he is living with ALS.

“I noticed symptoms in May 2019,” said Upchurch, 42. “My biceps would start twitching on their own. I attributed it to lack of sleep, stress, and a busy life. I was working full time while in graduate school, and taking care of my family.”

When Upchurch finished his Masters program that August, the twitching had increased in his arms and spread to his legs and chest. At his wife’s urging, he went to a neurologist, who diagnosed him with a benign syndrome that causes involuntary twitching. Upchurch was relieved, but his concern resurfaced the following summer.

“I went to the gym and couldn’t lift the weights I was used to,” said Upchurch. “I was having to put in much more effort. My endurance was low, I was having hand dexterity issues, and the twitching was still happening.”

Upchurch met with a new neurologist in October 2020 and began a series of tests. The doctor told Upchurch early on that he suspected he had ALS (which stands for amyotrophic lateral sclerosis and is best known as Lou Gehrig’s Disease) and gave him the formal diagnosis on Dec. 3, 2020.

“My shock over the news wasn’t as severe as it could’ve been because after the doctor brought it up weeks prior, I did a lot of research on my own,” said Upchurch of Lawrenceville. “I had time to contemplate it, let it sink in, pray about it, and something internally told me the doctor was right and I had ALS.”

When Upchurch and his wife of 22 years, Suzanne, sat with their three children to share the news, they made a promise not to hide or sugarcoat anything. They answered every question and encouraged their kids — Emily, 24, Laurel, 19, and Gage, 17 — to speak with a counselor or therapist, and they validated all their feelings.

“I don’t subscribe to toxic positivity, the assumption that everything is great all the time, because of course that’s not the case,” said Upchurch. “But I decided early on that I would allow myself to feel every emotion, the anger and sadness, but I refused to stay in a bad state of mind. I think a negative mentality would kill me quicker than the disease itself.”

A few weeks after diagnosis, Upchurch was lying in bed, unable to sleep, when two phrases kept reverberating in his spirit.

“‘God is good’ was one,” said Upchurch. “I am not mad at God, and I don’t blame him. It’s just one of those things that is unfortunate but is part of life. It doesn’t take away from the goodness of God. The second thing was ‘Love always hopes,’ which has become our mantra throughout this whole thing. It’s still tough to deal with. My wife and I still have our moments when we cry together, because to a degree we feel cheated, but we continue to move forward the best we can and trust in God throughout this journey. Whatever the end looks like, whenever that occurs, God has a bigger plan. Our faith is carrying us through.”

ALS is a fatal motor neuron disease that targets nerve cells in the spinal cord and brain. Approximately 5,000 people are diagnosed in the United States each year. As the disease progresses, ALS affects control of the muscles needed to move, speak, eat and breathe. The average life expectancy from diagnosis is two to five years.

Upchurch chose to use medical retirement from his job in human resources in May 2021 when he was still able bodied. He took time to travel with each of his kids, one on one, and they all took a road trip to the Grand Canyon.

“You simply don’t know how long you have until you’ll lose an ability,” said Upchurch. “I wanted to spend my time living life exactly how I wanted to.”

Today Justin relies on a breathing machine nearly 24 hours a day. He uses a power chair and a voice machine that helps him control things that he once controlled with his hands, like the phone or his iPad, with voice commands. He works with a nutritionist, as well as speech, respiratory, physical and occupational therapists.

Upchurch is involved with an organization called I AM ALS, as well as the Georgia chapter of the ALS association. He is currently raising money for the latter’s upcoming event, the Walk to Defeat ALS, which will be Sept. 23 at the Georgia State University stadium. It is Upchurch’s third year participating. He also attends a support group in person once a month and a weekly support group via Zoom that’s nationwide.

“Speaking to other individuals with ALS is comforting,” said Upchurch. “We help each other with tips and tricks and sometimes even laugh about our situation. I miss working, setting goals, and being part of a team. Being involved with the ALS community fills that hole. I can utilize my strengths, abilities, and experience to help — to get drugs approved, legislation passed, funds raised. It may not have a direct benefit for me, but maybe down the road it’ll lead to a cure. I want to do my part for as long as I can.”

To learn more about how you can support Upchurch’s fundraiser for the Walk to Defeat ALS, visit www.alsaga.org, click on Events, click on Walk to Defeat ALS, and search for the “Love Always Hopes” team.

Swapping Leashes

Stephen Posta’s dogs were the center of his universe. When Posta died from thyroid cancer on July 29, his family and friends devoted themselves to finding homes where all four of his dogs would continue to be treasured. His two older dogs went to live with Posta’s sister in Florida. The two younger dogs were serendipitously adopted by a friend, who is unsure if she saved the dogs or if they saved her.

Tonya Wnek met Posta about 10 years ago at a hair show. Posta was the owner of Salon Posta in Marietta and Wnek owns a salon in Nashville where she lives. The two were instant friends with lots in common, both straight shooters with a punk rock flair. Wnek knew Posta had cancer years ago but was shocked when she went on Facebook in July and saw a post sharing that he had died. In that same post, there was a photo of his dogs.

“Two of his dogs needed to be rehomed,” said Wnek. “It had only been a couple weeks since my dog Piper died — a few days before Stephen died actually. She was only 7 and, also like Stephen, had cancer. I was devastated. She was this huge part of my life and helped me through so much emotionally. I’d quickly gone from not wanting another dog to realizing I may have to get another dog to cope with my loss. When I saw Randall and Montana, I knew I had to have them. I wanted to do that for Stephen. I knew how much he loved his dogs.”

Posta adopted Randall and Montana in 2015 and 2016, respectively, from Bosley’s Place, a rescue orphanage for puppies in Smyrna.

“We bottle-feed and tube feed the babies, get them vetted, and find them homes,” said Jennifer Siegel, owner of Bosley’s Place. “Randall came in from a local county shelter. He was a singleton Pitbull puppy. When Stephen adopted him, I instantly fell in love with Stephen and he became my new hairdresser.”

Posta was covered in tattoos, head to toe, said Siegel, and he was the sweetest teddy bear of a man. He was the kind of guy who never complained and always had a positive outlook.

“He loved everyone and made you feel happy just to be near him,” said Siegel.

After Posta died, it was Bosley’s Place who helped Posta’s family spread the word about a new home for Randall and Montana. Siegel made the Facebook post and attached an application. When she read Wnek’s application, she was moved to tears.

“She explained that she was Stephen’s friend and she’d recently lost her dog,” said Siegel. “She said she’d be so happy to take care of Randall and Montana in Stephen’s honor, that she had a huge fenced-in backyard in Nashville for them, and that it would mean so much to her.”

Wnek and her partner drove to Bosley’s Place to meet Siegel and the dogs on Aug. 17. The connection between the couple and Randall and Montana was instant.

“We played with them, and they were so sweet, sniffing us calmly and so happy,” said Wnek. “We took them home to Nashville that very day.”

Siegel sent the dogs with luggage — two new beds, tons of food, and toys on behalf of Bosley’s Place.

Wnek said the dogs felt at home immediately. They ran freely around the backyard, and stretched on their backs, exposing their bellies for naps on the couch.

“I had a conversation with Stephen in my mind, telling him how badly I wanted this to be a smooth transition,” said Wnek. “I think about it now, how much he loved dogs and wouldn’t want to be without one. I think my Piper was probably waiting for him when he passed, and I know he’s with her. It didn’t make sense, her passing so young, but it’s easier to accept when I think she went so Stephen would have her. And now that I have Randall and Montana, I realize Stephen and I just swapped leashes.”

Posta also has a new namesake. When Siegel was driving to meet with Wnek for the interview, she received a call about a newborn puppy found under a porch, a yet to be determined breed with fluffy black and white hair. Little Stephen Posta will be available for adoption at Bosley’s Place in just a few weeks.

For more information about Bosley’s Place, visit www.bosleysplace.com

Julie Thomason: Spilled Milk Mamma

Photo contributed by Julie Thomason

When Julie Thomason was just 19, she told her future husband, Charles Thomason, that her dream for them was to one day have a white house, a Jeep, and two-and-a-half kids — the “half” being a dog. By the time Julie was 31, Charles had made all her dreams come true. They had the house, the car, the dog, a daughter, and on Sept. 1, 2021, they welcomed a son. Tragically, just weeks later, on Sept. 29, Charles, away just one night on a work trip, was killed in a car accident.

“Two days before he passed, I asked him if he was nervous,” said Julie, of Atlanta, now 33. “No one gets everything they want, and it scared me that life was so good. Charles told me not to think like that, but I had an intuition that something bad was about to happen.”

Nothing could have prepared Julie for the shock of losing Charles. They met as students at Dalton High School in 2007 and had a black-tie wedding 10 years later. They were best friends who talked or texted throughout every day, bickered over silly things, and constantly joked around. Charles was charismatic and genuine and took his role as a husband and father seriously. When he died, Julie lost her closest confidante and was instantly thrust into the role of single parent.

She’d started an Instagram page about five months before Charles died. The account, which she named Spilled Milk Mamma, was intended to be a creative outlet. Julie longed to show a more accurate view of motherhood on Instagram — the good, the bad, and the ugly. She wanted a judgment-free space for moms where she could use her background in education to discuss things like sensory bins and motor skill hacks, while also sharing mistakes and humorous moments.

“I shared the news about Charles on my page a week after he passed,” said Julie. “My therapist said journaling would help. I had two babies and no time to get a pen and paper. I also didn’t want to feel alone, so I started sharing what I was going through on Instagram. I didn’t have any idea how much it would resonate with others.”

While Julie acknowledges that the Internet can be a negative place, her little spot brimmed with positivity from followers.

“My family was a little concerned about how much I shared, but I didn’t care,” said Julie. “I was in a grief fog, didn’t know up or down, and felt no need to tiptoe around the truth. I felt like I’d been hit by a truck. I never knew what trauma could do mentally, physically, emotionally. I’d share the truth and a community began to build around me.”

Encouraging messages flooded Julie’s comments and direct messages. Within months she went from having 500 followers to 20,000, then 80,000. Now she has more than 160,000. Companies have also taken interest in Julie and hired her for promotional partnerships. Currently, she has 15 brand partners, including Spanx.

“I was working in administration at an elementary school when Charles died,” said Julie. “I tried to go back, but I just wasn’t that person anymore. I couldn’t go back to my old life. Also, financially, I wasn’t making enough to support my family. Partnerships created an opportunity for me to provide for my family from home, which is exactly what I needed.”

Julie and Charles’ kids, Kinsey and Charlie, are 3 and 1½, respectively. Julie said the two, who both resemble their father, are thriving, happy children.

“We call ourselves ‘The Team’ and they are my whole world,” said Julie. “They were both given to me at the right time to keep me alive. I don’t think they’ll ever realize how they saved my life. I had to keep going for them. I didn’t have the luxury to stay in bed and cry all day, I had to get up for them. It was so hard, but they helped me heal.”

Last year Julie struggled greatly on Mother’s Day and for the weeks that followed. This year she has plans to spend the day with her brother’s family and friends.

“Father’s Day actually felt like Mother’s Day to me last year,” she said. “Charles’ friends and their kids showed up and celebrated me because now I’m like a dad, too. They brought food and gifts, and we spent a whole day outside playing with our kids. It was so special.”

Julie admits that her new life is exhausting in many ways, and she still struggles to wrap her head around every aspect, from her tragic loss to her burgeoning career, but she is determined to be positive and strong for her children. Good things are beginning to happen, and new dreams are being made.

“I feel like Charles is up there sprinkling good things down, still taking care of me.”

Elena Howard

Lauren Russell, regional director at LifeSouth Community Blood Centers, says in her 21 years with the company, she has never seen a greater swell of support for an individual as she recently witnessed for 3-year-old Elena Howard.

It was Jan. 6, 2022, when Elena’s mother, Haley Howard, discovered a bruise on Elena’s side.

“Alarms immediately went off in my head,” said Howard, a former pediatrician. “The bruise was large and on a soft tissue area. We went to the doctor the next morning and I asked for bloodwork stat.”

Elena’s pediatrician called with results later that day. As he read each one aloud — white blood cell count, hemoglobin, platelets — Howard’s screams in her head grew louder.

“I knew it was leukemia,” said Howard. “When you hear those numbers in the medical field, it’s a likely diagnosis.”

The devastated mother of five, who was recovering from a C-section she underwent just nine days prior, was told to get her daughter to a hospital immediately.

Howard, her husband, Cameron, Elena, and their newborn son, Griffin, prayed with their oldest three sons, Cannon, Crew and Corbin. They then headed to Egleston, where Elena was admitted to the oncology floor for a week.

After tests classified Elena’s cancer as high risk, it was determined her treatment would be longer and more intense than standard chemotherapies. The goal is to be as aggressive as possible to provide the best success rate.

Elena recently surpassed one year of treatment. She is almost finished with what doctors refer to as her front-line treatment and she is due to complete all treatment in May 2024. Every couple of months there are different phases, new cycles of chemotherapy introduced to attack the leukemia differently. In addition to the chemotherapies, Elena has been subjected to extremely high dose steroids, countless lumbar punctures, and she has been sedated 22 times. The busy, brown-eyed little girl has slowed down, but her happiness hasn’t faded.

“I was worried about her losing her hair,” said Howard. “It wasn’t the loss of the physical hair, but because Elena always twirled her hair as a coping mechanism. She’s handled it so well, though. She brushes the tiny bit of fuzz atop her head, looks in the mirror and says things like, ‘That’s perfect, I’m beautiful.’”

Delayed intensification is an intense phase of treatment, a last push to wipe out all the cancerous cells. This phase began Oct. 3, and by Nov. 11, Elena was experiencing rare and extreme complications. She developed a fever after a platelet transfusion, and her situation spiraled downward from there.

Elena developed typhlitis — inflammation and infection in her intestines — which made her belly swell to so much that she couldn’t breathe. She went into respiratory distress and was moved to the Pediatric Intensive Care Unit. Though she had transfusion after transfusion, her platelet number wasn’t increasing. A normal count is 150. Elena’s was 2.

“They tested all the platelet samples they had in the blood bank, but there were no matches,” said Howard. “Cameron and I decided to write a plea on Facebook to increase the number of platelet donations. Elena is not the only child in desperate need. Any blood or platelet donation would be the answer to someone’s urgent prayer.”

Family and friends of the Howards helped make their plea go viral. With nearly 400 shares on Facebook, and a feature story on Atlanta’s WSB-TV news, their message of desperation and hope spread across the nation. Appointments were booked at multiple LifeSouth and RedCross locations, with people lining up to save a little girl’s life.

“We started getting phone calls, all for Elena Howard,” said Russell. “We’d hang up and the phone would ring again. That first day, we probably had five times the number of donors we see on a normal day. Within the first hour of the second day, I knew I needed additional team members. This was unprecedented. I get teary-eyed talking about it. We worked longer, harder days, and we did it with a smile. Our team was great, the donors were great. We had her sweet face hanging on posters at the centers which seemed to create a connection between patient and donor. It felt so personal.”

During that 19-day hospital stay, Elena received 14 blood product transfusions. As the threatening effects of the chemotherapy began to lessen, her body became more responsive to the platelets and red blood cells.

On Nov. 22, Howard created a Facebook post.

“Miracles upon miracles! Elena is showing signs of improvement. She is stable enough to be moved out of the PICU and back to the oncology floor. Her platelets are becoming more receptive. Her oncology team and transfusion doctor feel that she has multiple possible platelet donor matches. The absolutely incredible outpouring of selfless generosity through platelet and blood donations in honor of our daughter is making a lifesaving impact for so many others too. During a time of critical blood product shortages, all of you have filled a need for so many! Please continue donating! Thank you will never be enough!”

Russell said people are still showing up at LifeSouth to donate in Elena’s honor.

“Those who gave for her in November will be eligible to give again soon. They promised they’ll be back, and I believe them.”

Robert Blan, A Living Monument

The world outside keeps changing, but time stands still inside Sherwood’s Drug Shop in Buford. There, Robert Blan, 89, sits drinking his coffee every morning, the sole remaining member of a coffee club that has met at the pharmacy since the 1940s. This place holds memories of Blan’s life from boyhood to retirement, where loyalty, friendship and face-to-face interactions endured through ups and downs. Sherwood’s is where Blan feels most at home, where the good old days don’t feel so far away.

From soda fountain to coffee

Blan first became a regular at the pharmacy in 1942, when he was just 10 years old. It was called Simpson’s Rexall Drugs back then, located on Main Street in Buford, just up the hill from his family’s home on Park Street. The appeal was simple: “It had an ice cream counter,” he deadpans.

“I was allowed to walk up to the pharmacy all by myself, and I went nearly every day,” says Blan, seated at a table near the register, his arms crossed against his chest. “It was the place to be.”

With a nickel in his pocket and friends, like the Perkins brothers and Larry Crowe, by his side, Blan would stop by on his walk home from school.

“The space was long and narrow and always full of people,” says Blan, “There were four or five tables filled with men, and a wraparound counter where people sat on barstools. That’s back when they served sandwiches. Everyone in town had a charge account there.”

Blan would sit a spell, enjoying his Coca-Cola or ice cream. He’d get seconds, flip through comic books and occasionally buy one. When he got older, he traded his treats for coffee.

After high school, Blan joined the Army in 1950 but was discharged six months later for being partially blind, the result of an incident with a BB gun in high school. He married Mildred Thompson, a childhood friend, in 1955 and they had two daughters, Robin and Vinci.

For 36 years, Blan worked at Eastman Kodak, selling cameras, processing film and helping people solve technical issues. He was an avid photographer and voluntarily filmed football games for 30 years at Buford High School, his alma mater.

Throughout those years, the pharmacy remained a touchstone for Blan. He can’t recall exactly how it happened, but one day he took a seat with the group of men who regularly gathered there for coffee. He eventually began joining them every Saturday. They were friends and neighbors Blan had known most of his life, and they loosely referred to themselves as “the coffee club.”

Occasionally Blan would drop by in the afternoons, too, often with his little girl by his side.

“I used to wait on Dad to get home from work every day,” says Robin Blan. “He would change out of his dress clothes and take me to town. Our first stop was always Simpson’s. He’d buy me a Coke from the fountain with vanilla syrup and a Little Debbie Star Crunch. It wasn’t till I was an adult that I realized he did that to give Mom a break and get me out of her hair for an hour.”

A second home

In 1974, Donald Sherwood purchased the pharmacy from Simpson and changed the name to Sherwood’s Drug Shop. The coffee club was undisturbed by the change.

The club, whose members included the police chief, past mayors and members of the North Gwinnett Sportsmen’s Club, of which Blan was president for a few years, continued to spin tall tales and tell jokes. They’d discuss sports, share losses, confide troubles and celebrate victories like new grandbabies.

As the men retired, they began to come every day except Sunday when the pharmacy is closed. In 1986, the same year Blan retired, Sherwood moved the pharmacy to its current location, nestled inside a medical building off Nelson Brogdon Road in Buford.

There were two tables in the new location, and if you weren’t among the first eight to arrive, there were no more seats, so the men improvised. They loaded lawn chairs in the backs of their trucks and set them up in the lobby. They would arrive at 7 a.m. and stay until 10:30 a.m., drinking coffee, some smoking cigarettes, and occasionally getting shushed by Sherwood when they got too loud, or if their conversations got too colorful.

Half the men returned to the pharmacy for a second round at 1 p.m. when their wives were consumed with “Days of Our Lives.” They’d drink coffee and banter for a while, then head home for the 4 p.m. news.

The men were friends outside coffee club, too. Many spent holidays together, hunted together and shared family vacations in Florida and the Georgia mountains.

“We laughed a lot and talked ugly sometimes, too,” says Blan, his shoulders bouncing with laughter. “We made a little trouble sometimes.”

One year when it snowed, the men showed up for coffee club, only to find the pharmacy closed.

“We all drove over to Sherwood’s house and said we’d have our coffee there,” says Blan, smiling at the memory. “(Sherwood) borrowed his neighbor’s dump truck, drove us all over to the pharmacy, and opened it up, just so we wouldn’t sit in his house all morning.”

Changing hands, retaining heart

Despite the changes of location and ownership, the pharmacy’s quaint, small-town quality has endured.

When Danica Robertson was 19, she began volunteering a few hours a week at the pharmacy until she was hired part-time. She went full time after she completed her degree in pharmacy. Eleven years ago, when Don Sherwood died, Danica assumed ownership.

Now 44, Robertson did more than keep the name of the pharmacy, she inherited the coffee club, and she maintains the small-town feel. Like any good pharmacy, it’s stocked with an array of medications and general health and wellness products, but there’s also a mix of home goods, jewelry and knickknacks for sale that add warmth to the shop. A TV chats quietly in the background and the smell of freshly brewed coffee invites a deep inhale. Beside the coffee pot sits a tin that holds $1 bills rolled tight as pixie sticks, courtesy of Blan.

“I pay a dollar for the cookie, a dollar for the coffee and always roll it up,” Blan says with a mischievous chuckle. “One time I painted the bills with egg whites before I rolled ‘em. It took the guys forever to unroll those suckers to pay for our coffee.”

Robertson and her staff of three greet customers by name, both over the phone and in person, and they converse with them like family. How have you been feeling? Where have you been hiding? How’s John? A gray-haired lady at the counter says, “Thank you, hon,” for her medications. She pats Blan on the shoulder and hollers, “Y’all be good now,” as she walks out the door.

Blan sits alone at his table, surrounded by three empty chairs. His handcrafted hickory cane is perched beside him, and a hat emblazoned with a Buford logo sits atop his head. Without him asking, Robertson comes out from behind the counter and refills Blan’s cup. He nods, says “Thank you, ma’am,” and reaches his hand, where a gold wedding band still shines, for hers to give it a quick squeeze.

Everything keeps changing

Eleven years ago, Blan returned home from running errands to find Mildred laying on the floor. She was gone, taken by a heart attack.

“He took her loss incredibly hard,” says daughter Vinci Blan Edwards. “If not for his love of watching his grandkids play sports, the hunting club and coffee club, I feel sure he would’ve died from a broken heart.”

Every day when he leaves Sherwood’s, Blan goes to Broadlawn Memorial Gardens, no matter the weather, to visit his wife’s grave. He sits on a golf stool for up to an hour, swaps out the flowers and communes with his bride of 57 years. The two exchanged terse words only once, Blan recalls, and they were over his penny collection.

“She wanted me to roll them up and put them in the bank, and I didn’t want to,” says Blan with a shrug. “Everything else was easy.”

One by one, Blan has also said goodbye to members of the coffee club. Three of the men aren’t well enough to attend anymore and many — E.J., Quinton, Ray, David, Ben, Woody and more — have died. Blan attended all their services.

“It was customary back in the day when one of them died to send a wreath with a coffee mug attached on behalf of the club members. All the guys would chip in,” says Robertson. “When they started dying, it was too sad to look at two nearly empty tables, so now there’s just the one.”

In fall 2021, Robertson took a photo of Blan and fellow member David Buice. When she posted it on social media, her caption joked that the coffee club was accepting new members. Buice is now in an assisted living home. In August 2022, coffee club member Buddy Ehlert died, leaving only Blan.

“It’s lonesome being the last one. I miss them. We shared life together,” says Blan, as he strokes his arm and looks toward the floor. “I choose to keep comin’ though. It’s a habit, I reckon. And, of course, the pharmacists are my friends. I’ll keep comin’ long as I’m able.”

For a while, Blan wasn’t capable of showing up. In 2016, he was run over by a tractor. He nearly died and was in ICU for four weeks. Sherwood’s sent a box of large oatmeal crème pies to the hospital.

“He tells his doctor he eats oatmeal for breakfast,” says Robertson with a grin.

It took 10 months for Blan to fully recover from the accident, but he no longer drives. His daughters, who he lives with, help him maintain his routine. Vinci drops him off at the pharmacy on her way to work in the mornings and Robin, a retired teacher, picks him up two hours later.

“Most days someone will come in and sit with me for a bit,” says Blan. “Sometimes the folks are talkative, some are kind of shy, but I enjoy talking to all of them. Some days I may not talk to anyone but Danica or my other friends who work here.”

A prolific storyteller, Blan laces his fingers on the teal tabletop as he speaks of the old days with detail and enthusiasm. He recalls when he heard the Japanese had attacked Pearl Harbor, when the newspaper was delivered by steam engine, when his town was not yet paved and just had broad dirt roads. He loves to tell the story of the 1967 Mustang convertible he bought for $300. His wrinkled face holds the excitement of a boy’s at Christmas when he describes how he made that car shine and sold it 12 years later for $8,000.

“But anyhow, everything keeps changing,” says Blan. “I don’t like it, but I reckon you have to live with it.”

‘Better than I deserve’

Recently, there have been a few days when Blan did not make it to coffee club. He has slept in, likely due to new medication. He’s grumpy and disappointed when he wakes to realize he’s missed his beloved routine.

“One of those days I made a special trip to drive him by the pharmacy in the afternoon, not for coffee, but just so he could check in with the girls,” says Robin.

Vinci and Robin threw their dad an 80th birthday party at the pharmacy in 2012. There was coffee, of course, and breakfast for a crowd of 30. His 90th birthday, Dec. 16, is approaching, and plans are brewing for another celebration at the pharmacy, Blan’s home away from home.

“The girls here are always so nice to me,” says Blan. “They really feel like family. This place is special, the people more than the building.”

Robertson’s brown eyes brim with tears when she thinks of what the pharmacy would be like without the coffee club, without Blan.

“My whole working life has been here with all these men,” says Robertson. She turns so Blan can’t see her cry. “There was a time they’d be waiting on the bench by the door every morning when I arrived. I’ve looked forward to seeing them every day, and now if Robert is my last one…”

A customer walks into Sherwood’s, smiling as she waves at Blan and asks how he has been. Blan lights up at the greeting and says what has become his mantra.

“I’m better than I deserve.”

He takes a sip of coffee and smiles.

*Special thanks to Danica Robertson, Robin Blan, and Vinci Blan Edwards. You ladies have been so helpful. Thank you for answering all my detailed questions. I feel lucky to know and love Mr. Robert, and I’m also very grateful for the friendships I’ve made with you three.

Writer’s Note

My mom called months ago to tell me about a post she read on Facebook. Someone shared that they’d visited Sherwood’s Drug Shop and met the nicest man named Robert Blan. Mr. Robert, the post said, was the last remaining member of a coffee club that had thrived at the pharmacy for years. He continues the tradition, sipping his coffee alone each morning, and talking to whoever might bop into the store. My mom shared this with me on a Friday afternoon. I was sitting across from Mr. Robert the very next morning.

Ever since I was a young girl, when I’d go out to eat with my family, it’s hurt my heart to see elderly people eating alone. While I realize now that plenty of people enjoy the solitude, I always created a narrative in my mind as to why they were alone - widowed, kids have moved away, etc. I wanted to warm the seat next to every solitary person, the older the better, and now, at 40, I’m no different. I had to go meet Mr. Robert. He sounded like a precious story, yes, but I really wanted to keep him company.

Mr. Robert and I became fast friends, as is his nature with everyone. He held my hand between his, he called me “young lady,” he sat back, and told me story after story of his wonderfully simple life. I sank into the chair across from him and soaked up every detail, reveling in his mischievous grin, while images of days gone by danced in my mind.

Danica joined our conversations and helped iron out details occasionally. When her eyes filled with tears, mine did, too. I found myself envious for all she’s witnessed over the years, for the relationships she’s built, and memories she’s made with all these men, especially Mr. Robert.

The world Mr. Blan knows is the one I want for my children, the one I wish we all knew. I want to take my kids to a soda fountain, not at RaceTrac, but at a quaint pharmacy with shiny counters and a familiar face behind the register. I don’t want to stand in a mile-long line to buy a cup of coffee for $5; I want to sit at a table, surrounded by friends. I want to work hard and give back to something I’m passionate about, just as Mr. Robert did for Buford High School when he voluntarily filmed their football games for 30 years. I wish the latest greatest technology was as insignificant to all of us as it is for Mr. Robert, that a cell phone wasn’t always within reach. I want a slow-paced life where I think less about what’s next and what I need to achieve, a life where I find peace and satisfaction in the present. I want to look at this big wide world and say, “I’m right where I want to be.” I want to love my husband and children selflessly and live my life in a way that honors them. Mr. Blan doesn’t wish he’d done anything more or different with his life. He’s perfectly content on his chair in Sherwood’s Drug Shop, and the beauty in that will stay with me as long as I live.

I have spent many mornings with Mr. Blan and look forward to many more. He’s even attended a couple of my boys’ baseball games, for which my whole family is grateful.

I’m incredibly happy to call Mr. Robert my friend, to share this story about him and Sherwood’s, and to have his influence over my life. His name will be etched on my heart forever.